Audacious husband diminishes wife's career in front of his boss and deems it a ‘silly’ hobby, wife sets him straight: ‘It's not a hobby, it's my line of work’

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Lana DeGaetano • "Show me to me please."
Apr 30, 2025 6:00 PM EDT

It's the 21st century—women should be recognized as intellectual, accomplished career-havers with the ability to support themselves and do what they love. Anyone who disagrees with this sentiment is living deep in the past, and I just broke the time machine. Have fun living there.

Our romantic partners are supposed to be our biggest supporters. We start and end our day with them. Long-term relationships are partnerships in every sense of the word—if they don't support something you love and are passionate about, then they are not the one. Period.

The woman in this next story realizes that her husband does not take her journalism career seriously when he makes jokes at her expense in front of his boss. He deems her writing "silly" and merely a "hobby". This is news to the woman, as she gets paid to do her job. She believes he cannot fathom the fact that she has made a name for herself in any regard and cannot grapple with the fact that she doesn't need him in order to be a whole person. Scroll below to continue reading.

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  • We ladies can do anything we want if we set our minds to it, and that includes leaving our spouses if they treat us like dirt! Yep, you heard me. In 2025, we don't let people, specifically men, tell us our careers are “silly” and only “hobby” worthy. The woman in this story sets her husband straight and commenters reiterate that she is a woman with dreams, and he cannot take that away from her.

  • "I didn't find them funny, but rather somewhat offensive and disrespectful towards my work."
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  • Throw away because my main is linked to some of my work My husband was invited to this work dinner at his boss's house and his whole office was invited.
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  • My husband has a higher paying job than mine and it doesn't really bother me because I love what I do but he does lack interest in my work because of it. The first iffy
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  • thing was when we were getting ready, he gave me a "check" or something like that where he gave me the run down of dinner etiquette. I know dinner etiquette, my parents used to host this kind
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  • of dinners all the time, so yeah, I know how to act and how to behave. All his co-workers were going to the dinner and they brought their wives with them so it was pretty packed. Dinner was
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  • nice until we were in the dessert portions my husband's coworkers started talking about their wives and their hobbies. My husband brought up my "hobbie", I'm a journalist, and I write stuff once
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  • in a while. He talked about some of the stuff I've written, describing it as "silly". I didn't say anything and smiled awkwardly but he just kept going, saying he doesn't read my stuff because he "doesn't want to be all up in my head".
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  • When we got home I talked to him about the jokes and said I didn't find them funny, but rather somewhat offensive and disrespectful towards my work.
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  • He told me to learn how to take a joke, I tried to ignore it so I just kept doing my thing, but then he started getting handsy and I rejected his advances because I was still sour about dinner and he
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  • got upset, so we went on and on about the dinner thing. I wasn't even adressing him making fun of me, I was generally upset over the hobby thing, because it's not a hobby, it's my line of work
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  • which I love and am very passionate about. He admitted to maybe being in the wrong for the jokes but that they were "based on fact". I grew up significantly welthier than him, I do not leech
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  • off of my parents, nor do they send me money out of free will. My parents have never said or done anything to make him feel inferior and they get along very well. We met when I was of going
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  • through some sort of hippie. phase. I wasn't talking to my parents and I did not get along well with them at the time. I was some manic pixie dream girl at the time and I think he got wayyy
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  • to attached to that version of me (I was 25, I'm 32.). He called me dull and compared me to my mom which isn't bad in it of its self but he said it as an insult and said I was becoming a suburban mom (we have a son, he's two).
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  • I feel like he doesn't really appreciate me as a person or care about me as much as a husband should for his wife. I get what he's saying, but I'm getting older, I'm a mom and I'm
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  • advancing in my career and have a lot on my plate apart from that. I do love my husband, I married and started a family with him for a reason but maybe I took the
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  • joke too seriously? I'm not sure if I blew it too out of proportion because I asked friends and they said that maybe I took too seriously etc etc AITA?
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  • truly-diy20 When he met you you were some "hippie girl with no future" so he was better than you and that made you perfect for him.. then he knew your parents are rich and you will probably inherit some of that, you have a job that you love, pays good and could be seen as a "smart people" job.. so now in his mind youre actually better than him so he needs to put you down so he can keep feeling superior. NTA but he is a huge one.
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  • Pomksy It's only a joke if you're laughing. You started life with this man who has been hiding his true feelings from you. Where do you expect it to go from here? You heard what he really thinks about his wife and mother of his child - what are you going to do about it?
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  • SmellMajestic7355 Omg NTA. When you say journalist, do you mean you post lists on buzzfeed for freeor something? Because that is a hobby. It appears someone pays you to write words. It doesnt matter if youre writing for the New York Times or freelancing food
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